tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post4076915621564803070..comments2024-02-11T04:43:29.198+08:00Comments on Blessed Homemaker: SAHMs = Tai Tai (太太)?Blessed Homemakerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15280093571105411449noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-14868200264720128562012-03-04T22:08:29.403+08:002012-03-04T22:08:29.403+08:00hi, thank you so much for writing this. i went thr...hi, thank you so much for writing this. i went thru the same experience.more often than not i would just keep quiet but deep inside im very sad and sometimes feel very inferior. Thank God my husband is very supportive. well.. at the end of the day this is what i want to do. i just cant imagine leaving my kids at the day care centre or alone with d helperimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06852228560867472226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-38959186140933749212012-01-16T15:42:46.659+08:002012-01-16T15:42:46.659+08:00Thank you meant for submitting this unique, It’s j...Thank you meant for submitting this unique, It’s just everything that That i had been investigating with regard to at ask. I’d a lot fairly listen to beliefs on a man, a little rather than a business page, that’s the key reason why I’m keen sites consequently noticeably. Bless you!<br /><a href="http://www.broadwayofficefurniture.com/Glass-Desks-and-Tables-s/155.htm" rel="nofollow">Glass Desks</a>Stelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00575004626721350067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-85804273182021291612011-12-13T23:00:17.968+08:002011-12-13T23:00:17.968+08:00Yr posting was a spot on..I simply hate it when pp...Yr posting was a spot on..I simply hate it when pple think that we are super rich..can afford to be SAHM..in a way, I am glad that our finance situation allows single income source but do pple know how much we have given up? I hardly buy new clothes, get new hairstyles, eat out and much less abt traveling. Pple say we choose to do so we shd not complain..but hey...being SAHM is not equate to being tai tai..Right now, I am waiting for my laundry..sipping my kopi (after vacuuming and mopping the floor)..so that I can survive the night hanging my laundry and doing my ironing...and before I retire to bed..take a peep in the fridge and crack my brain to think what meals to cook for tomorrow! Lucky I have blogs like yours to rely on to give me some cooking tips and ideas. And on really bad days..I will just feed my kids with instant noodles,Prata or sandwich, so long as they EAT!! SAHM is both physically and mentally challenging! It is not a job for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-39871266255458237932011-12-08T10:16:18.597+08:002011-12-08T10:16:18.597+08:00Stay strong and convicted!
High tea tai-tais are ...Stay strong and convicted!<br /><br />High tea tai-tais are different lot of people. They have 1-2 maids at their dispense, lots of spare cash and time on their hands to attend to their own needs. SAHMs are not necessarily tai-tais. Many people don't see the difference.<br /><br />SAHMs like us don't even have time to sit in a salon, much less sport manicured nails. People who really do household chores, cook and clean should know how little time there is for ourselves in a day.<br /><br />From: a stayhome momAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-15606169986775470932011-11-12T19:50:56.623+08:002011-11-12T19:50:56.623+08:00Hi..pple jus love to b negative sometimes. Those w...Hi..pple jus love to b negative sometimes. Those who bothered to leave u a msg telling u to stop whining/get a life etc..well i wonder y they bothered to read yr blog & comment..they obviously need to get a life of their own!! Haa<br />Well i became a sahm after working for 20yrs!! It was not easy esp becoming a mum when i was 38! After #2 came along i resigned & became a sahm. For anyone who has done a shift work like those i went tru for 17yrs while i was working at the airport..believe me..a sahm mum's hours r really nuts!!,24/7 365 days .. no childcare/annual/medical leave!! No time off..dont even have time to really sit down on the toilet bowl or shower..whoever says being a sahm aka hdb taitai is an easy job, be prepared to take up my challenge for a day..then tell me who is having the easy thing!<br />Even after 1.5 yrs wiz a 3.5 dd & almost 2yo ds..i m still juggling everyday..i m luckier in a way cos my pil are helping me to fetch & care for my dd after class. We go over for dinners, i only have to shop n cook for us on weekends and lunch. <br />So for those who thinks they are ready for some 'fun' for a day, feel free to step into the shoes & take up the challenge & let us enjoy a day off! So take up the challenge or back off and keep those hurtful comments to yourselves!woonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-81527804096410640512011-11-09T21:00:48.783+08:002011-11-09T21:00:48.783+08:00I can understand how you feel. Last year I quit my...I can understand how you feel. Last year I quit my job of 15 years to be a SAHM to focus on my 2 kids age 4 & 7. The elder just started his year 1 in primary school last year and it was such a struggle for him to cope with the the school & homework. My hubby very busy at work & always on outstation business trips. I am so "well trained" to be a supermom. I couldn't find a good balance to juggle work & family. I felt sorry to my kids that I couldn't be there for them when they need me, and yet my boss thought i didn't perform well at job. So i decided to make a change. Those who knows for for many years and worked together with me for many years, started to call me "siu nai nai" or "tai tai". I felt so irritated when they called me like that right in front of me. I think they are just being jealous that I have the guts to make the change of my life. I still find it annoying when people say that to me, especially those who are close to me. It's disappointing. But i tried my best to take it lightly. Don't fuss over those people comment, not worth out time at all. Just to share with you this beautiful article (in Chinese). I'm sure every mom will enjoy reading it. All the best to you.JJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-52676696461559006922011-11-04T14:20:27.027+08:002011-11-04T14:20:27.027+08:00Anonymous right above,
she's not whining. She...Anonymous right above, <br />she's not whining. She's educating those who have no idea the situation she is in so that those ppl will know that SAHM is not a taitai life. When you whine, you expect sympathy or empathy. I don't think BH needs that. <br />Leave a name if you dare.<br />Don't even come if you don't like what she writes, maybe you are one of those...WendyinKK https://www.blogger.com/profile/08266961453200555850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-31888349675522255092011-10-23T20:39:18.857+08:002011-10-23T20:39:18.857+08:00What's wrong with you? You chose this path yo...What's wrong with you? You chose this path yourself so stop whining.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-16325682563474642512011-10-20T14:29:18.266+08:002011-10-20T14:29:18.266+08:00Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I ...Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I can so relate to the daily 'gifts'!!<br />When the kids were younger, I felt like I was hamster in a running wheel, every day cook-clean-wash, cook-clean-wash, cook-clean-wash nonstop! Over and over!! <br />We have been living overseas for the past 4 years, away from family support and with no maid. Trying to adapt to a totally new country with my then 4 and 9 yr old was not easy with DH away at work the whole day. But now, the kids are more independent and can help around the house. The feeling you get when your kids can fold clothes and wash plates is absolutely priceless and worth all the stupid, insensitive remarks and acres of dirty floor you've had to clean! :D<br />But you know, the most hurtful remark I have ever received was not from some envious acquaintance, but from DH himself! Sometimes he doesn't realise the amount of work needed to keep the house tidy so that he comes back to a comfortable home, meals freshly cooked so that he has a decent hot homecooked meal and laundry nicely folded and placed in his drawer so that he can just reach in and get whatever he needed at all times. I can be relaxing slightly in front of the PC after I complete all my chores, and he can just walk in and ask, "So what have you been doing? Coffee with the ladies?" @%#$%^#??!! *bang head on wall* Remedy for that? Shopping.... :Dkahttp://suum-cuique.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-34469107050737551962011-10-20T01:20:46.999+08:002011-10-20T01:20:46.999+08:00Ooops, sorry...should be "coping with 3 kids&...Ooops, sorry...should be "coping with 3 kids". ;)Food For Totshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497308972277311073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-13614636067841670952011-10-20T01:16:57.733+08:002011-10-20T01:16:57.733+08:00Nowadays, SAHM is totally different than the olden...Nowadays, SAHM is totally different than the olden days. We are expected to do everything under the sun from housework to coaching our kids. Even though I have one and without maid, I'm still as busy as a bee. Most of the time I still stay past midnight to settle my stuff. But I never regret for making this decision. I really salute you for being able to cope with two. Keep up the good job!Food For Totshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14497308972277311073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-13891491709387790462011-10-17T12:39:30.313+08:002011-10-17T12:39:30.313+08:00Well said! Life as a SAHM is definitely no bed of...Well said! Life as a SAHM is definitely no bed of roses for us. <br /><br />I am blessed with a helper but that comes with emotional stress as well but I did have no helper for 5 whole years and I understood perfectly how you feel as well.<br /><br />We SAHM should form a club!Edithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12743536843148739774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-9550171060724349362011-10-16T07:16:15.637+08:002011-10-16T07:16:15.637+08:00I can feel you.... I was a SAHM for more than 10 y...I can feel you.... I was a SAHM for more than 10 years, looking after my 4 children. Couldn't tahan, so decided to work part-time, just to keep my sanity.<br />Yes, we need to tell those irritating pple off, there & then!! the harsher, the better!!Faeezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15032854895715029269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-17386449386712291052011-10-15T01:06:51.455+08:002011-10-15T01:06:51.455+08:00Not all people are interested to know the life of ...Not all people are interested to know the life of a sahm, some don't even want to put themselves in your shoes. Get a life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-14595338734798592462011-10-14T11:53:43.159+08:002011-10-14T11:53:43.159+08:00so glad to hv found your blog, i am a SAHM since 2...so glad to hv found your blog, i am a SAHM since 2002, I have a 12 yr old girl and a 9 yr old boy, all these yrs I dont have a maid and I dont have parental or in laws help, my hubby travels v often on the job so I hv to depend on myself. I am happy to see so many SAHMs here, it is tough and it is gd to know that you are not alone. i hate it too when pple call me a taitai. I hate it when some of my single friends think that I have no identity left when I left the workforce and tell me not to become a yellow fac woman. Who says that i dun have an identity, I AM a FT mom and proud to be one !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-32156112103592698552011-10-13T17:00:33.447+08:002011-10-13T17:00:33.447+08:00I am a working mummy (of 2 kids) who constantly gi...I am a working mummy (of 2 kids) who constantly give kudos to SAHM!<br />My 2over hrs alone consecutively for 2nites with them at nite is almost making me shag.<br />When i am sick, i really wondered how did my mum survived taking care of 3 of us while still able to cook, do housework and sew clothings for a living at home! She is the best SAHM followed by you, blessed homemaker!<br />Jiayou and ignore those ignorant ppl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-18639185524738023872011-10-12T10:06:06.988+08:002011-10-12T10:06:06.988+08:00Thank you for writing these down. I can see and fe...Thank you for writing these down. I can see and feel some of it.mabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679960137754196170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-22310452731346139902011-10-12T10:05:01.688+08:002011-10-12T10:05:01.688+08:00Thank you for writing this. I can see and feel som...Thank you for writing this. I can see and feel some of it.mabelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04679960137754196170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-81058664524609329752011-10-11T23:36:50.496+08:002011-10-11T23:36:50.496+08:00Thank you so much for the post.I like to share my ...Thank you so much for the post.I like to share my exprience.My family used to have a maid till I was 10. My parents felt the my sibling who was is a year younger than me were old enough to care for ourselves so they stopped hiring the maid.My sibling and I were in different school sessions so only 1 of us will be at home.It was the most horrible time of my childhood.Imagine going back to an empty and not so tidy home,takeout food or cold homecook meals in a thermoflask for lunch and a late dinner.That was also the period which I learnt to be independent and to do housework ad I had to help out with the laundry,washing up,moping the floor etc. My dad decided to retire and became a SAHD when I was in lower seconday school.My dad has been a SAHD for close to 10 yrs.He does everything a SAHM does.His presence at home with us and the time spent with us is irreplaceable.We are very much closer to him than our mum as a result.Your post had made me appreciate his efforts even more:) I'm sure your kids will appreciate your efforts and ur sacrifices will be worthwhile.Butterscotchnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-90773460658700412792011-10-11T23:35:52.625+08:002011-10-11T23:35:52.625+08:00Thank you so much for the post.I like to share my ...Thank you so much for the post.I like to share my exprience.My family used to have a maid till I was 10. My parents felt the my sibling who was is a year younger than me were old enough to care for ourselves so they stopped hiring the maid.My sibling and I were in different school sessions so only 1 of us will be at home.It was the most horrible time of my childhood.Imagine going back to an empty and not so tidy home,takeout food or cold homecook meals in a thermoflask for lunch and a late dinner.That was also the period which I learnt to be independent and to do housework ad I had to help out with the laundry,washing up,moping the floor etc. My dad decided to retire and became a SAHD when I was in lower seconday school.My dad has been a SAHD for close to 10 yrs.He does everything a SAHM does.His presence at home with us and the time spent with us is irreplaceable.We are very much closer to him than our mum as a result.Your post had made me appreciate his efforts even more:) I'm sure your kids will appreciate your efforts and ur sacrifices will be worthwhile.Butterscotchnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-43649871424852710612011-10-11T15:13:50.444+08:002011-10-11T15:13:50.444+08:00Kitchen Corner,
When I delivered my first born, I ...Kitchen Corner,<br />When I delivered my first born, I wasn't able to connect with her too. She was a total stranger to me. It took me a while to love her from my heart. Don't worry if you are taking a bit longer to feel this way.Blessed Homemakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15280093571105411449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-32770751079979079492011-10-11T15:07:07.567+08:002011-10-11T15:07:07.567+08:00Thanks for all your comments and experiences. I&#...Thanks for all your comments and experiences. I'm fine, don't worry about me. I just feel a need to post this because sahms are often misunderstood by many. And I hope with my sharing, working people have a better idea of what sahms do. We might seem like we have lots of time, with no reports to run, no meetings to attend. And if we need to run some errands, the kids follow. A 30 mins trip becomes a hour, blah blah blah... I'm not affected by it, no way, not going to feel miserable over such matters, it's just not worth my effort :-)Blessed Homemakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15280093571105411449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-90732733110042919252011-10-11T13:51:17.430+08:002011-10-11T13:51:17.430+08:00Yeah la, if my kids are that big and all of them i...Yeah la, if my kids are that big and all of them in school, I can also deliver, but ur DD3 is still young and at home, it's impossible to do that. You can focus on your chores when all the kids are in school, but with even 1 at home, it's impossible to market, prep and deliver (not counting preping the girl to tote along), all DIY with no help<br />My mom used to deliver meals to my brothers, but that was when she took me to school and I was in the afternoon session, so, it was a "convenient" task. If not she'll just give them money to eat in school.WendyinKK https://www.blogger.com/profile/08266961453200555850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-76507300869573654492011-10-10T22:54:41.237+08:002011-10-10T22:54:41.237+08:00I share what you have written. So far I have not g...I share what you have written. So far I have not got any such comments directly as I am always with SAHM when I am outside fetching kids, or sending kids .. other than those hours, we are either in the supermarket or "locked" at home. And yes, cooking and matketing is a killer! I told my dh, if I do not need to plan the meals, buy the ingredients, pre preparation, cook then wash, I would save alot of time.<br />I am worst than you, cos I take a long time for a bake (esp new one that I have not tried before), so I try to bake less and blog less .. Furthermore I only blog after the kids sleep and hsework all done (ie late at nite) so sleep is sacrificed, but old age catchin g up really fast so blogging seemed to be coming to a standstill :-(. I hope I will be able to catch up soon.<br /><br />p/s : sounds like I am complaining to you hor :) 我們一起加油吧!sherlynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06112381909989864683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3747498344320901332.post-88370597238060905852011-10-10T16:50:40.566+08:002011-10-10T16:50:40.566+08:00Thank you for sharing all your recipes and thought...Thank you for sharing all your recipes and thoughts on your blog!<br />As a (mostly) SAHM, I "love" how people love to call us Tai-tais. I usually tell them, I haven't got a nanny, or the big car, or the hair. I certainly won't mind going for high teas more often too! LOL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com